My Face for the World to See (Part II):
The Diary of Sherilyn Connelly
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November 1 - 10, 2003

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Monday, 10 November 2003 (in a miasma of malarial delusions)
2:47pm


Wanna know what I miss? Reading. More to the point, having time to actually sit down and read a book. Haven't done that in a good long while. John Shirley gave me a copy of his new novel Crawlers, from which he'll be reading at Wicked Messenger, and I was hoping to have it done by then. Doesn't seem likely. Of course, I could sit down and make some headway into it tonight, but, well, we have Mau Mau Sex Sex on DVD from GreenCine, and I've really been wanting to watch it. So you see where my priorities lie.

Yesterday I met (e)'s companion for the last leg of her tour, Hal Sirowitz, the Poet Laureate of Queens, New York. He's a terribly sweet guy, the most literal representation of a "gentleman" I've ever met. And he's incredibly funny. The two of them touring and performing together is a terrific idea.

Hal was staying at Matthue's apartment while he and (e) were in town; meanwhile. Matthue is in New York at Jennifer Blowdryer's place, and Anders is subletting a room while Matthue is gone, though not actually Matthue's. (Certain of these details will eventually seem relevant.) Anders and his assorted housemates over had Maddy and I over for a vegan kosher meal before the show. Damn good stuff. Something tells me that if I looked into it, I'd probably find that most of what I eat falls into that category anyway.

So (e) and Hal featured at the Second Sundays Poetry Slam here in town. They were terrific—(e) appeared to be healing up nicely from the previous evening's debacle—but I gotta say, slams just aren't doing much for me. The competitive element leaves me cold, and I find most of the performances underwhelming, perhaps because of their sameness. (With the possible exception of Karuna, that is. She also performed her peanut butter piece—I'm not even going to try to describe it since I can't possibly do it justice—at Cal Slam, and didn't win there, either. No justice.) Say what you will about non-slam open mics; for better or worse, you never know what's going to happen next.

Jeez, though, could this community get a little smaller? It's like this: I first saw Karuna at Cal, and we then ran into each other a few weeks later at Spanganga when she was trying to get tickets to see From Tel Aviv to Ramallah: A Beatbox Journey with Yuri Lane (the show which closed a few days before Night of the Living Dead opened), and again last night. Karuna asked if I'd met Hal before, and I said I'd only met him earlier that day. She said she'd met him the night before, when she crashed at the place where he's staying—Matthue's. Everybody knows everybody else, even if they don't know it yet.

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Sunday, 9 November 2003 (at dawn)
9:51am


My heartfelt thanks to everyone who came to the play. Y'all are the best.

Pictures from last Saturday's show are here.

10:36am

The cast party at Sean and Noona's on Friday night was, as I suspected it might be, eventful.

I added a new injury to the list of bumps and bruises I've gained throughout the run of the play: burned fingertips. Everyone else was drinking, and I very much wanted to get stoned. We had grass and a pipe, but Maddy's lighter didn't agree with me. It was small, so I had a hard time turning the wheel, and the flame itself was so small I had to get the lighter right into the pipe, the net result being the flame singed my fingers. It also didn't help that the screen of the pipe was thoroughly resonated, so I had to take quite a few hits before I felt anything. I was determined, however, and chalked up the burning to the unpleasantness that I've come to associate with drug ingestion, like the icky taste of 'shrooms or the teeth-grinding from the the speed with which acid is inevitably cut. Pain with the pleasure. It's all the same to the EKG.

And if anyone's house is set up for pain and pleasure, it's Sean and Noona. (They live together, but aren't a couple. Not anymore.) It wasn't a play party, but all the equipment was there if anyone so desired. And, of course, Sean wore his bunny suit. (That picture is best descibed as "work-hostile.") Goes without saying.

Meanwhile, Ty and Corey were more than a little pleased to find Noona's Hitachi Magic Wand. Although clothes were kept on, much fun was had. I'm glad I wore my Trinity pants, since they were just about right. It also made it all the more appropriate that Tallulah was there; her evening's john lived nearby, and she swung by on the way home. She never did get to be a zombie or even see the play, so hopefully being at the party made up for it a little, even if we're a bunch of amateurs by her standards.

The night's mellow was slightly harshed by the head zombie, who chose a rather inappropriate time to confront me. Seems he didn't appreciate the k'vetching I'd been doing about the rest of the zombies, like the fact that their time is constantly off, or that they make entirely too much noise backstage at the wrong times, or that they spill beer backstage every night. Little things like that.

He informed me that trying to keep the zombies in line is like trying to herd cats, and that I shouldn't have such high expectations about them. That's my newcomer's naivete, I suppose, expecting that everyone involved in a production would do their best. All this, however, was after he asking why I hadn't wished him a happy birthday yet. Mind you, I'd only heard in passing earlier in the evening that it was his birthday, and hadn't seen him since then, and was stoned and otherwise distracted. Noona had said a couple days before that the zombies were feeling isolated from the rest of the cast, like we don't interact very much.

Which is somewhat true, I suppose, since they get made up at a house near Spanganga, and as such we don't see them before the show. It made me wonder if I get singled out as being a prima donna, not deigning to have anything to do with them except complain. I don't know, and it's not like it matters at this point. I do know that Maddy and I have become good friends with the tech people, so I'd like to think that implies that we're not stuck up. I mean, I know how that sounds, but I've heard lots of stories about actors not giving the crew the time of day.

Our final show was, to put it mildly, chaotic. Maybe our energy was weird from the mild debauchery of the night before. Nothing went catastrophically wrong, but it also felt like we were going to fly apart at the seams at any moment. Made it all the more exciting, I suppose. Cues were missed, lines were stepped on, at least one prop misbehaved and the zombies were absolutely fucking apeshit. I'm told they were encouraged, by someone who has no business encouraging them, to do whatever the hell they wanted. How that was supposed to be different from any other night, I don't know. But it was still fun, and, according to Jennifer's date, looked fine from where the audience was sitting. And that's ultimately what matters.

Afterwards, we ate and watched MST3K with Jim and Erin, the (literally) resident techs. They've demanded that we come back and visit often, whether we're performing or not. I think we can manage that. Especially since, after walking by it a zillion times, Maddy and I only just discovered Ali Baba's Cave at 19th and Valencia, just a block from Spanganga. My god but that place is good. Mmmm. Falafel and hummus and dolma and...our regular pre-show foodage was a tofu burrito from El Buen Sabor at 18th and Valencia, and I'm sure we'll be back there as well, but...

I'm still amazed I made it through the run of the show without getting sick, especially given my tendency to psychosomate myself into illness before gigs. At one point my throat was threatening to get sore, but it didn't. It wouldn't have mattered if it had; the show must go on, as they say, and it's not like there were understudies. Worse, there was something bouncing around the cast and crew. I'm crediting my sustained healthiness to daily ingestion of Natural Value Organic Cayenne Hot Sauce, usually on tofu. I'd gotten the idea from Joe Donohoe, who eats a lot of that sort of thing, and claims that during the year which he worked at a Vietnamese restaurant and made a point of eating the same hot and spicy foods as the rest of the staff, he never got sick once. Sounded like it was worth a try, and so far, so good.

It's funny. While I don't tend to be a superstitious person, the theater worldthrives on superstition, and I became one in a hurry. I almost wrote about the hot sauce once I started eating it—i must spread the good news!—but I was afraid that if I did, it would cease to work. If it was really working at all, that is. While I knew intellectually that talking about it wouldn't change whatever its effectiveness might be, I wasn't about to take any unnecessary chances. of course not, harry...

Aside from the pictures, there really isn't any record of the show. Attempts to videotape it didn't work out because of the low lighting. It's probably for the best. Live theater should be just that.

2:01pm

Last night, a few blocks away at The Make-Out Room, (e) was experiencing the worst night of her tour. Our City hurt her, bad. Her next gig is in Portland on Tuesday, and frankly, I wouldn't blame her if she never comes back.

sometime after midnight

(e)'s reading tonight went about a zillion times better. I'm so glad. And we will be getting her back.

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Saturday, 8 November 2003 (eleison closing)
5:22pm


And then, tonight, it's over.

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Friday, 7 November 2003 (ancient ambience)
10:18am


Tired. It was one of the nights where things begin at a reasonable hour but the next time you look at a clock you realize that you have to be awake in four hours and it's take at least a half hour to get home to bed and that's only if you head out now and you probably won't. Maddy and I were at Spanganga with some of the other cast and crew, a core group which has gotten into the habit of sticking around after the show to smoke grass and hang out.

We watched some videos (a couple true-crime shows involving the adoptive father of the stage manager Ty and her twin sister Corey—long story, that), and things then somehow mutated into most of us taking turns on the stage, usually reciting or singing something. Fortunately, I just happened to have a chapbook handy. Corey provided ASL interpretation, which was a first.

Being a schoolnight, the wise thing would have been to just go home, but, after the play ends on Saturday we probably won't be seeing this group of people anymore. There's a lot to be said for doing this particular unwise thing while we still can. It's worth being low-energy at work.

Good show last night, too, a sold-out house with our most enthusiastic, interactive crowd yet. Figures we'd finally start packing 'em in right before it's over. I'm told it always works that way at Spanganga.

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Thursday, 6 November 2003 (gravity waves)
9:36am


Sometimes, all you can hope for is to reach a freeway exit before your car's heat guage goes into the red. It's the little things.

10:46am

Good show last night. Tristan & eM, Violet, and Lynnee & Jenn were in what was our our first (and last) sold-out Wednesday. We're expecting that this last week is going to be our busiest, since that's the pattern at Spanganga: nobody really pays much attention until the final week of the show. Alas. It's going to be weird when it's over, since it's been such a part of our lives for the last month and a half. Though closing night is Saturday, the cast party is after Friday's show. I suspect it'll be an eventful night.

12:44pm

I think I need to get into meditation, or something else of a cleansing nature. I have too many bad things bouncing around in my skull.

1:07pm

High water risin', six inches 'bove my head
Coffins droppin' in the street
Like balloons made out of lead
Water pourin' into Vicksburg
Don't know what I'm going to do
"Don't reach out for me," she said
"Can't you see I'm drownin' too?"
It's rough out there
High water everywhere


4:19pm

Inspiration doesn't always come from a positive place. The negative kind might even be the strongest.

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Wednesday, 5 November 2003 (crawlspace)
9:11am


The office is still standing in spite of my game of hooky—I mean, my Unavoidable Absence yesterday. My computer doesn't appear to have been turned on, which is the one thing I was worried about. There isn't much really incriminating on it (what there is is also online), but still. My space. Stay away.

I arrived before The Boss, and as soon as he got here I went into Proactive Secretary Mode: "I was supposed to tell you yesterday to get in touch with xxxxxxxxx, and I have a letter I sent last week to xxxxxxxxx which needs to be followed up." It feels like a game of misdirection, like in that original Star Trek episode "The Ultimate Computer" when the M-5 fooled the crew into thinking it was still using the primary helm and navigation controls by sending through an electronic impulse at regular intervals as a decoy. Hell, sometimes my entire life feels like that.

9:54am

Speaking of Star Trek, the piece I read at the Ammiano benefit last week was about being into it as a child, and some of the places it lead me. Afterwards, Lynnee said (sincerely) that he never would have pegged me as a fan. Then again, he was also surprised to discover I like Neil Young. Apparently I'm all enigmatic and stuff.

2:40pm

So, according to an article in the Guardian, my suspicions were correct about the Big Reveal:

The men claim they were tricked into kissing, cuddling and holding hands with the "woman", Miriam, and say it was only after three weeks of filming that they were told she was male.

While viewers know from the start that Miriam is a male-to-female transsexual, the contestants, who include a Royal Marine commando, a ski instructor and an ex-lifeguard, only discover the truth when Miriam picks the winner and then lifts up her skirt.

One contestant was so furious he is said to have punched the show's producer when he found out.

The "truth" being that Miriam, aka the "woman," is (in their words) "a man waiting for a sex-change operation." Funny, that picture in the Guardian doesn't look like a man to me, but what would I know? They also use the female pronoun in spite of pronouncing Miriam to be a man. Gosh, this stuff is all so confusing, isn't it?

I'm beginning to have my suspicions that the whole thing is a hoax, a story fed to the press in order to ruffle the feathers of humorless PC types such as myself. The AP article refers to the show as Find Me a Man, but in the Guardian, it's the slightly more clever There's Something About Miriam. Not sure why, but that discrepancy makes me wonder.

3:00pm

It probably makes me wonder because I tend to be optimistic, and the whole thing being faked is as close to optimism as I can possibly get about the modern media. However, according to their site (after marvelling at the sheer greasiness of the producers, go to "About Us" and scroll to the bottom), it's real. Was real, anyway, and the name would have been Find Me a Man, thus increasing the injury-by-way-of-implied-homosexuality to the contestants. They'll probably be removing the reference to it soon, but I'll always have the screenshot to remind me of the joy they almost brought into our lives.

Y'know, it was all supposed to be in good fun. Can't I take a joke?

4:17pm

Last night, Anders was describing (e) to someone. When they figured out who he was talking about, they said, "Oh, the really tall one?" Heh.

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Tuesday, 4 November 2003 (foregather in the name)
8:06am


An evil shawarma has convinced me to call in sick to work.

I will, however, be voting today. Throwing it away, more precisely, since I'm voting for Ammiano for mayor even though Newsom is more likely to win. I'm reckless like that.

11:48pm

Okay, so Tom lost. At least Matt Gonzalez is going to be in a runoff against Newsom, so there's still a chance of beating him. (Evil. Look at this picture and tell me the man isn't pure fucking evil.) I also found a pair of black polyurethane Trinity pants which fit perfectly at Community Thrift for seven and a half bucks, so the day was far from a total waste because I love them very much. I wore them to Tom's election night party, and I gotta say, if his concession speech was any indicaction the man has a dangerously sharp sense of humor. No surprise, since as his detractors bring up whenever they can't find an actual issue to use against him (and they don't feel bold enough to call him a faggot), he's also a stand-up comedian. In fact, Anders and I are going to ask him about doing a set at Wicked Messenger. Nothing political or topical if he doesn't want to, just some of the old-school funny. It's worth a shot.

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Monday, 3 November 2003 (kyrie opening)
1:10pm


I'm stacking up the bad karma like so much cordwood.

2:29pm

Greendale was pretty much what I expected it to be, self-indulgent and borderline incoherent. Which, in this case, is a good thing. Displaying the aesthetic perversity which has kept me a fan of his even though my musical tastes have shifted, Neil shot the bulk of it on Super-8 film. It'll will look somewhat grainy on DVD (the intended format for the movie), but was hugely grainy when transferred to 35mm and projected at the Castro. It was a beautiful graininess, though. Sure, it would have looked much sharper if he'd shot on the digital video, which he could have easily afforded, but the lack of sharpness worked. For me, anyway. Horehound enjoyed it too, which was a relief since it was my idea for us to go. He was all about it, and I most definitely did not drag him there, but still. The actress who played Sun Green, probably never to be seen in a movie again, had a pleasant Claire Danes-iness about her.

Being still amped from the performance, I was total spaz when I met John Shirley on Saturday night. It was Summer who actually first turned me on to his writing back in '99, loaning me a copy of Black Butterflies. I've read most everything of this that I could find (or afford, anyway), since then, and have somehow managed to not make it to ever reading of his I've heard about in the ensuing years.

I almost met him on the night of ForWord Girls last year, since he's a friend of Danielle Willis's and she got it into her head that he simply had to meet me. Didn't happen (Danielle gets lots of ideas in that head of hers, gawd love it), although he wrote me when he heard about my reading with her in July. He wasn't able to attend, but we've corresponded since then, and he's agreed to read at Wicked Messenger, the club Anders and I are starting this month at El Rio. So I'm glad we got a chance to actually meet face to face.

Anyway, he said he liked the play a lot, and that we'd succeeded in creating a sense of dread. Yay. High praise indeed.

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Sunday, 2 November 2003 (harmonic relation)
11:55pm


Tristan and Violet's party on Friday night, John Shirley coming to see me in the play on Saturday, seeing Greendale with Horehound today, and both him and I then featuring at K'vetch (along with Michelle and Larry-Bob and Meliza and others). A damn good weekend. Back to work tomorrow morning, which sucks, but it's only for eight hours. Eight hours, five days a week. I can handle that.

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Saturday, 1 November 2003 (lines to a great lord)
4:39pm


Though we'd originally planned on parking in Ted and Kelly's driveway a half a mile away, we actually got lucky and found a spot just a couple blocks down from Tristan's. Right at Haight and Fillmore, in fact, in the heart of things. Well, a heart of things, anyway. Still not as bad as The Castro would have been.

Tristan and Violet made coffin- and stake-shaped tofu for me. I love my friends so much.

I was probably the only person at the party not doing anything remotely costume-like. It's just not my thing. Never has been. I get looked at every other day of the year like I'm wearing a costume anyway, so I just can't bring myself to put any effort into it. I didn't even put on the hairfall I've been wearing in the play. I'm no fun at all.

A little over a year ago, Gwen Araujo was killed because some boys she had sex with discovered she was a tranny. There are some who believe the murder was not a hate crime, but rather a reaction to Gwen raping them. (I wasn't in the room with them, but if they didn't find out Gwen was a tranny until afterwards, then it's a safe bet that if there was any penetration was done by them, and with mutual consent, so...forget it. I can't think on that level.) And this is not simply the opinion of one wingnut writing for a college paper.

How far have we come?

Reality TV show with transsexual shelved

Oct. 31, 2003 | LONDON (AP) -- A television station said Friday it had shelved a reality show that set up six male contestants with what appeared to be a gorgeous woman but was actually a transsexual.

The program, "Find Me A Man,'' challenged the contestants to woo a leggy South American brunette called Miriam. Only at the end of the show did the men learn that Miriam was a preoperative transsexual.

The law firm Schillings, acting on behalf of the six men, wrote Thursday to Sky One television and Brighter Pictures, makers of the show, alleging conspiracy to commit a sexual assault, defamation, personal injury and breach of contract.

Now, I'm not surprised that the show as conceived, produced and almost broadcast. Frankly, I'm surprised it didn't (almost) happen sooner. Trannies are still a great cultural punchline, and probably always will be. During my lifetime, at least.

What gets me is the charges, all of them except the last. Conspiracy to commit a sexual assault? Defamation? Personal injury? Since the charge is only conspiracy to commit, the actual sexual assault evidently never happened—i.e., the men were never quote-raped-unquote by the devious transsexual—but they may have had some other kind of contact with her, perhaps kissing or feeling her up, and since it was actually a man!!!, that qualifies as injury.

I suspect that Miriam being pre-op is important, especially since the straight world puts so much emphasis on genitals. (I may never get SRS, and to some people, that means I'll always be male, regardless of how I look.) After all, she still has a dick, which makes her all the more of a man, which is very important for the The Big Moment at the conclusion of the show, of the finalist's reaction to learning the truth. "She used to be a man" wouldn't get quite as shocked a reaction as "She's really a man."

I fucking hate television. I don't care that this show was actually British. I hate it all, around the world. Even Angel and kittypr0n suck.

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